“A kind word, a compassionate glance, a small favor – all these can bring light into the lives of others and ours as well”
Hello and Welcome! I’m so glad your curiosity brought you here!
I imagine you are wondering about the person behind the face of Living Life Joyfully and what it’s all about.
I am many things – I am a seeker in life, an adventurer, an explorer of ideas, a dreamer. I am a healer, a teacher, a listener, a storyteller, and a friend. I’m woman, a girl at times, a wife; a mother of babies born still. I am an advocate, a lover of humanity, a women’s wellness coach, a student of life, a nurse, and a midwife.
I am a little fearful at times, a bit of a procrastinator sometimes, a little concerned about what others may think occasionally. I can be unsure at times, confused and unfocused at other times. Sometimes a worrier, a bit of a control freak, and moody every now and then!
But most of all I am just like you – making my way through life, learning many lessons along the way, experiencing the extremes of joy and sadness, desiring to be understood, loved and accepted for who I am.
I stand for living with passion, seeking out truth, experiencing freedom, feeling inspired, loving what you do, learning from others, embracing the contrasts that others bring to our lives and living wholeheartedly.
I believe in accountability, heart-to-heart conversations, empowering others, asking deep questions, agreeing to disagree, authenticity, integrity, common sense, having values, and standing up for what is right.
I also believe in the transformative power of gratitude, kindness, empowering others, intuition, awareness, being open to new experiences, affirmations and visualization.
My journey through life so far has led me on a few interesting, trying, testing and loving paths so far…
My early life was spent growing up within in a farming community, a very strict Christian upbringing, the second child of four and a bit of an outsider in both the family and the community… Being a misfit, I yearned to belong, to be understood and loved and accepted for who I am. It can take a while for a person to understand who they are and this was particularly true for me. From a very young age I learned to ‘fit in’, people please and to slavishly seek approval from my parents, authority figures, family and friends. Over time, I developed an ability to mold and adapt my behavior, communication style and language to match the people around me – I learnt to be likeable, developed a cheeky sense of humor, an interesting personality and learned how to make friends easily to achieve the best possible outcome in all situations.
I had two great dreams growing up – to be a loving mother to many children and to be a nurse so that I could care for and support others in their times of need. I was very passionate about both dreams equally and upon leaving school I commenced a Bachelor Degree in Nursing Pre-Registration. To date I’ve completed three university courses including a Post-Graduate Certificate in Advanced Paediatrics and Diploma of Midwifery. I have over twenty years of combined nursing and midwifery experience working in a rural hospital, several tertiary city hospitals and aged care facilities during this time. I am a great student of humanity and have a natural ability to connect with people from all walks of life easily and deeply. I am all for deep connections. I am also blessed with a natural rapport towards animals and children. We seem to ‘understand’ each other most of the time!
I met my gorgeous husband whilst working on Lizard Island (Queensland, Australia) as one of the resort nurses back in 1998. We have been together ever since and happily married for years. It was inevitable that we would be keen to create our family and thus commenced a journey together that we would embark on over the next 14 years of our lives. Diagnosed with infertility after several years of trying, we sought medical help, nutritional advice, tried acupuncture, reflexology, iridology, chiropractors, massage, ways to ‘relax’ and virtually every ‘position’ we could think of in our quest to fall pregnant with no avail! Undergoing IVF, I did conceive twins upon the very first attempt. We were ecstatic! I did not tolerate the IVF drugs very well however and was soon hospitalized with hyperstimulation and 24 hour hyperemesis. I was unable to work for weeks due to the ongoing nausea and vomiting I was experiencing day and night and I ended up with fractured ribs as a result of all of that vomiting. I experienced bleeding at 6 weeks, 12 weeks and finally at 22 weeks of pregnancy. Unthinkably, we experienced the devastating loss of our twin girls this time around due to the antepartum hemorrhage I was suffering.
Our grief ran deep as we struggled to cope with the pain and horror of losing our precious babies and as we watched their tiny coffin being lowered into the ground several weeks later, I knew my life would never be the same…
As the days blurred into weeks in the aftermath and we tried to make sense of what had happened, well-meaning family and friends rallied around us to offer what little they could in the way of comfort and support – shocked and disappointed for us too.
Returning to work and having to explain to everyone what had happened, and to deal with, at times, the poorly thought out and hurtfully ignorant comments of others, was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever dealt with. My own inner turmoil ate me alive during this time.
Thankfully the love of our marriage stood this great test and as the months became years we grew closer together, bonded forever by the unthinkable and we have grown to appreciate each other in ways we would never have, had we not experienced this very heartache.
In all the years that were to follow we would never realize that this would be the only time we would fall pregnant and that we would never experience the joys and frustrations of parenting our own children that so many others take for granted.
We have learnt many life lessons and out of our most devastating life experiences have come also some of the most life changing, heartening, empowering and clear personal truths. Born of these pains and soul searched out on many a wet eyed night – a new sense of self, a different way of living and being and a mother heart that would not be silenced, birthed. I learned to fulfill the desires of my mother heart in other ways to ensure my needs to parent and have children close by were being met. Combining regularly caring for nieces and nephews, becoming a midwife and ‘adopting’ several struggling families along the way, I have found that I have been able to parent and care for children in a far different way than I ever envisaged. Whilst this doesn’t even get close to making up for the loss of our own – it has certainly assisted to ease the pain of not having our own babies to raise. What you can’t always create in your life in one way can be created in other ways.
These days I continue to work as a casual/on call midwife caring for women from all walks of life and supporting them through all aspects of pregnancy, birth and beyond. I love supporting women as they navigate the expansion of their families and learn how to care for their newborns if this is their firstborn. To share their births is an incredibly rewarding and very special experience for me.
I have also become the loving and understanding midwife I wished I had had all those years ago when I was in the throngs of suffering the devastating loss of my babies. Yes, I also support women who are experiencing miscarriage, pregnancy loss and whose babies are sometimes born still… Whilst always a heartbreaking and very painful time for all involved, I do believe that my own experiences absolutely influence the care I give and knowing just how it feels, I approach these situations with a great deal of love and compassion for the families and women involved.
My search for greater life meaning and purpose has led me to here to this point in time now with you. An inner voice with an unshakable message prompts me ever on towards working with women more closely and personally than ever before to empower and support, explore vulnerabilities and to show our authentic selves to others with the assurance that we are always more than ‘enough’ and the world needs the gift of seeing the essence of who we truly are.
It’s time to let down the masks and to be intimate, visible and vulnerable. Being your true self is the ultimate freedom – grant yourself permission to be vulnerable, to be ‘all’ of you and to bloom where you are. Rise with each new dawn with a renewed sense of purpose that today is the best day of your life yet and that what you do today contributes and counts towards all of your tomorrows
Live without regret, be more open, be committed, and be vulnerable.
Discovering my passions and purpose, having unwavering faith and leaping in
Love has brought my life more joy than you can possibly imagine. I want the same for you.
Through many hours of coaching amazing, inspiring and brave women, I have witnessed heartening changes, held belief, hope and space for them as they dared to step up and into their authenticity, filling their days with more meaning, light and joy.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
– Marianne Williamson
As a Womens’ Wellness Advocate and Life Coach I gather all of life’s experiences, weaving the lessons in that I have learned along the way to provide you with pearls of wisdom, life-changing insights and pivotal moments of clarity to create an experience for you that is deeply nurturing, soul-centered and powerfully effective for both of us.
You are here to liberate yourself.
I am absolutely ready to support and empower you when you are ready to move forward with your life – Living Life Joyfully is one of the greatest gifts you’ll ever honor yourself with.
Your time is now.
I’m so looking forward to meeting you…
Love and light